Why Is It So Hard to Open Up to Those We Love?
by Nic Starr
Hi everyone, I’m Nic and I’m thrilled to be here with The Blogger Girls. Thanks you so much for having me.
Recently I caught up with a close friend, in fact one of my oldest and dearest friends. It’d been a while since we’d had a chance to really talk—all too often real life gets in the way—so we’d had the odd dinner and phone call but not really talked. We hadn’t spoken about the important stuff, like the details of the marriage break up she is currently going through.
But this time we did talk—we also laughed and cried and drank lots of wine—and this time she shared some of what was happening behind her usually happy and outgoing façade. Enough time had passed that my friend was able to look back on her relationship with some objectivity, distancing herself from the more emotional side.
The recurring theme was the communication within her relationship. Or to be more accurate, the lack of honest communication. It turns out that both my BFF and her husband and spent a lot of time—as in years—thinking they knew what the other was thinking and what the other wanted. Surprise! They had no idea of what the other one really thought.
You want to live overseas and love the glamour of international travel and the expat lifestyle – WRONG
You love the challenge of climbing the corporate ladder and get immense satisfaction from your career – WRONG
The result? Years of ‘sacrificing’ to give the other partner what they thought they wanted. Years of ‘supporting’ each other. Years of sacrificing and supporting to do something neither of them were really passionate about doing. All which lead them to the point they are now.
How can two people who love each other get it so wrong? Surely open communication should be easy? But it’s amazing how often it’s not.
In my novella, It’s Not Easy, miscommunication rears its ugly head, as does making decisions based on what other people think—or more correctly, what they assume the other person thinks. Ben is making decisions driven by protecting his family and Spence is making decisions based on his love for Ben. Their hearts are in the right place, it just takes a while for them to realize there are other paths than the ones they’ve chosen.
I hope you enjoy Ben and Spence’s story.
Nic
About It’s Not Easy
Ben Cooper gave up on following his dreams to keep the peace in his family. Best friend Spencer Henderson has always been Ben’s rock. For Spence, who is in love with Ben, supporting Ben always came first, but as Ben starts to date their friend Suzie, Spence has to think of himself for the first time. The ramifications of one fateful night means leaving their small town may be Spence’s only option to protect his broken heart.
With trouble escalating at home and Spence out of reach, Ben finds it harder to cope. Without Spence’s help, Ben’s life may finally spiral out of control.
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About Nic Starr
Nic Starr lives in Australia where she tries to squeeze as much into her busy life as possible. Balancing the demands of a corporate career with raising a family and writing can be challenging but she wouldn’t give it up for the world.
Always a reader, the lure of m/m romance was strong and she devoured hundreds of wonderful m/m romance books before eventually realising she had some stories of her own that needed to be told!
When not writing or reading, she loves to spend time with her family-an understanding husband and two beautiful daughters-and is often found indulging in her love of cooking and planning her dream home in the country.
You can find Nic on Facebook, Twitter and her blog. She’d love it if you stopped by to say hi.
Nic has kindle offered up an eBook copy of It’s Not Easy to one luck winner!!! The giveaway starts now and ends August 31, 2014 at 11:59 p.m. To enter, just click the link below!
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Good luck!
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